The ‘payoff’ to taking on this role is “I don’t have to deal with things that feel too difficult”.
Ask yourself the five questions below to check how often you play the victim role:
- Do I feel hopeless, powerless or weak?
- Do I believe I can’t make wise decisions or make positive changes?
- Do I believe my life is just one problem after another?
- Do I manipulate others or use guilt to get help or get what I want?
- Do I blame others or circumstances for my difficulties?